DEAR ABBY: My pal’s home was severely broken in a hurricane and he or she misplaced a whole lot of the contents. Thoughts you, she was one of many fortunate ones. Others in her neighborhood misplaced every part.
Considered one of her buddies began a GoFundMe account to assist with restore prices, and it's now as much as 1000's of dollars.
My drawback with that is: She’s now on her third journey to Europe this 12 months. She continuously spends cash, has 1000's of dollars in bank card debt and tells me she’s broke. Granted, two of the journeys had been partly funded by her associate.
Usually, she would submit particulars about her journeys on social media, however this time she’s not. As an alternative, she’s posting footage of her home development and implying that she’s there.
I’ve thought-about outing her on social media, however I made a decision in opposition to doing that. I simply can’t get past what she’s doing and don’t assume I can proceed my friendship. Am I justified?
FULL DISCLOSURE IN FLORIDA
DEAR FULL DISCLOSURE: Sure, you might be justified. What you've described is fraud.
Go surfing to your pal’s GoFundMe web page (gofundme.com) and you'll discover a “Report” button. As a result of you've motive to consider she is misusing the funds which have been contributed for the restore of her home, use that “Report” button to alert the GoFundMe crew about this potential concern, and they'll examine.
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 14-year-old freshman who had an abortion final 12 months. I’m undecided who the daddy is, and I don’t wish to undergo that once more.
I wish to get contraception, however I’m afraid my mother and father or my older brother will discover out. They might kill me.
I have already got a foul repute, and I don’t need a worse one by having somebody discover out I used to be pregnant (or might be once more if I don’t get contraception).
What can be the most secure manner for somebody my age to get contraception? I do know you’ll in all probability say “no intercourse” is the perfect, however I take pleasure in it an excessive amount of now. It’s like a behavior. Please assist.
GROWN-UP GIRL IN RHODE ISLAND
DEAR GIRL: I've by no means heard of a woman on this nation being killed simply because she had intercourse, so your fears about your mother and father doing which may be overblown. Your mother will not be thrilled with the information, however she received’t kill you. You want her and her steering.
In the event you proceed on the trail you’re on, having intercourse with a number of boys, you'll have extra to fret about than changing into pregnant once more. Among the sexually transmitted ailments round as we speak might trigger you to turn out to be sterile at a time when you might have considered trying a baby.
A corporation referred to as Deliberate Parenthood (plannedparenthood.org) can give you contraception. It may possibly additionally inform you about STDs and find out how to keep away from them. Since you really feel you can't cease your self from having intercourse, contact Deliberate Parenthood as quickly as potential, ideally earlier than the subsequent time you indulge your behavior.
DEAR READERS: That is my annual reminder for all of you who stay the place daylight saving time is noticed: Don’t overlook to show your clocks ahead one hour tonight at bedtime. Daylight saving time begins at 2 a.m. Sunday.
I stay up for it annually as a result of it alerts longer, brighter days and hotter climate. The additional gentle is a temper elevator and an energizer. Might good issues bloom for all of us this spring.
LOVE, ABBY
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.