DEAR ABBY: My native TV meteorologists and reporters have a horrible behavior of calling wet climate “depressing,” cloudy climate “gloomy,” and another non-sunny day “dreary.” With so many horrible occasions within the information every day, reporting the climate this fashion appears irresponsible and reckless.
For some emotionally susceptible members of our group, these destructive phrases might be harmful.
Climate is climate. After we have been children, my buddies and I'd play exterior within the rain and none of us ever considered it as gloomy, dreary or depressing. Utilizing such a robust medium as tv on this approach might have a destructive affect on people who find themselves already in a darkish place.
IT’S RAINING BUT NOT DREARY IN DELAWARE
DEAR IT’S RAINING: Thanks for talking up, however you might be addressing your feedback to the improper particular person — they need to be directed to the supervisor of your native tv station.
Whereas some climate forecasters might communicate off the cuff, others normally learn from scripts. So whoever is getting ready the climate forecaster’s monologue might must be suggested to make use of completely different adjectives.
DEAR ABBY: I lately received engaged to a person I’ve been seeing lengthy distance for a couple of 12 months. Then, out of the blue, an previous navy good friend/crush referred to as me and advised me he has been considering lots about me and is engaged on himself.
He apologized for the instances he ghosted me as a result of he couldn’t deal with relationships.
We talked for 2½ hours, and it was like we have been again to our deployment and inseparable. It introduced emotions I've by no means had earlier than, but it surely additionally introduced confusion and battle.
I like my fiance. He’s an ideal man, and a single father or mother. I don’t know what to say to the previous flame. Are you able to assist?
CONFUSED IN THE WEST
DEAR CONFUSED: Inform the previous flame you settle for his apology for the a number of instances he ghosted you and want him luck in his self-improvement mission, however clarify that you're now engaged to a beautiful man.
That mentioned, you shouldn't rush into marriage with anybody till you've got doused this previous flame and are assured in your choice.
DEAR ABBY: I'm approaching 70 and I've been residing a lie. I've two youngsters who have been born by way of synthetic insemination by an unknown donor.
Ought to I inform them, or take it to my grave?
I've been divorced for 25 years and don't have any contact with my ex. We selected to make use of donor sperm due to his infertility, and we by no means mentioned telling the youngsters.
Now I’m torn about what to do as a result of they nonetheless have contact with him regardless of his being verbally abusive. I want peace of thoughts. Assist, please.
SLEEPLESS NIGHTS IN ARIZONA
DEAR SLEEPLESS: Your “youngsters” are adults. You and your former husband solved his infertility drawback, and also you have been in a position to elevate two (I assume, because you didn’t point out in any other case) wholesome, contributing members of society.
Due to the recognition of DNA testing, it will be higher in case your youngsters heard this information from you somewhat than from who is aware of what number of half-siblings they might have.
Infertility isn’t shameful. Inform them what they should know.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.