Pricey Amy: I put on my hair quick and have had the identical stylist minimize it frequently for the previous 10 to 12 years.
The stylist was an worker at a reasonably upscale salon, and their costs rose two to 3 instances a 12 months. I continued to go as a result of I had constructed a rapport together with her.
Understanding the salon proprietor took at the very least half of what I used to be paying her (as a result of the stylist made no secret of claiming so), I at all times tipped my stylist 20 p.c to 25 p.c.
Now the stylist has left the costly salon and gone out on her personal in a small rented suite. I used to be bowled over that she stored the identical excessive worth for a haircut because the salon was charging.
Am I nonetheless required to tip this one that is the enterprise proprietor and has set the costs herself?
I really feel that leaving the worth as excessive because it was on the salon could be sufficient to cowl her prices and make a revenue with out me including a tip.
I really feel awkward not tipping the identical particular person as a result of she doesn’t have a boss, however alternatively I really feel taken benefit of if I’m anticipated so as to add 20 p.c to the already excessive worth.
What's the right solution to deal with this?
Trimmed
Pricey Trimmed: Let’s say your stylist charged $50 for a trim on the upscale salon. You routinely tipped her one other $10. So, as of your stylist’s departure from the upscale salon, your common haircuts had been value $60 to you.
You cite enterprise causes (she surrendered half of her charge to the salon proprietor) for why you selected to pay and tip the way in which you probably did.
Your stylist has now opened her personal enterprise and is paying lease, utilities and overhead. Have her expertise declined? Are your haircuts now not value $60 to you?
If not, you need to patronize one other enterprise, and your stylist may have acquired a helpful instance of how her present pricing is working within the market.
My total level is that it isn't your job to scrutinize this particular person’s enterprise mannequin and resolve what her revenue margin ought to be.
When you select to proceed to patronize this enterprise, it's now thought-about commonplace to tip the one that cuts your hair, even when that particular person owns the enterprise.
Pricey Amy: I'm 67 and retired from a protracted nursing profession.
I've seen that I'm more and more known as “Pricey,” “Sweetie” or “Hon.” This occurs in varied conditions, however most likely most continuously in well being care settings.
For the document, my husband (who has had grey hair since his late 30s) has not been addressed equally.
I used to be raised within the South, and I do know these endearments are widespread and made with out thought concerning the impact on an older particular person.
I notice that I used this identical condescending tackle a couple of years again to a affected person whereas working in a nursing residence. I didn't intend to demean my affected person in any respect. The truth is, I used to be keen on this affected person and it slipped out.
There isn't a ailing will behind these phrases, however it's humiliating and makes me really feel as if I'm turning into invisible.
Is there a solution to converse up with out inflicting embarrassment to the speaker in a method that will educate them about what number of older persons are made to really feel when they're addressed this manner?
Retired Nurse
Pricey Nurse: I hear from many ladies who really feel precisely as you do. I’m questioning if any affected person really prefers to be addressed this manner.
You're in an awesome place to mirror on this apply, definitely in a well being care setting.
You may say, “I’m a retired nurse, and I do know that this manner of addressing older sufferers is widespread, however I’d desire to be known as by my title.”
Pricey Amy: I appreciated your response to “Nameless,” who was complaining about “free-range children” at household occasions.
Your opinion on this fashion of parenting apart, I agreed together with your evaluation that oftentimes mother and father are inclined to “take a look at” at household occasions.
We have now a big household property, and the hazards are considerable. I like seeing the youngsters operating round, however they do require supervision.
I discovered this the laborious method, by racing right down to our pond and pulling a 3-year-old out, simply earlier than he went beneath. The little man simply wandered in.
Vigilant
Pricey Vigilant: These tragic accidents occur when mother and father are distracted, consuming, or – sure – checked out.
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