DEAR MISS MANNERS: Can I ship a easy Valentine’s card to a person I love, however from whom I don't anticipate a response? The cardboard would simply want him a contented day, with no point out of affection or romance.
He doesn't know me, however he has a high-profile public picture, so I do know of him. I'd ship it in care of an expert affiliation he's concerned with, to not his dwelling tackle.
I've no intention of following up, though I did ship one other easy card 20 years in the past to this similar man in the identical method. He thanked me in writing. We've by no means met.
I wish to signal my title, however I additionally don’t need to creep him out. He's unattached, whereas I'm in an sad marriage, which he would know nothing about. I'm torn.
GENTLE READER: Why didn’t you simply ship him a New 12 months’s card? As you say, you wouldn’t need to counsel that that is about love or romance.
If you happen to can’t idiot naive Miss Manners, chances are you'll make certain that you'll not idiot the recipient. However as he's apparently a public determine of some type, you is probably not the primary sad spouse who has approached him. It was gracious of him to thanks the primary time, however he doesn't appear to have advised that you simply run away collectively.
So you might be speaking about fan mail. That appears innocent, though not flattering to your husband — in case you care, or he would.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Every time I end my meals at a restaurant or membership, I at all times fold my used fabric serviette right into a sq. or rectangle and place it neatly on the desk.
My expensive spouse (my manners and social habits critic for a few years) now informs me that that is in unhealthy style and is proof of a low-class upbringing.
In fact, I worth the appreciable judgment my spouse has rendered through the years, but each time I believe I've solved the problems emanating from my lesser start, one thing like this pops up. What do you suppose?
GENTLE READER: If not for that crack about being low-class, Miss Manners would have sided along with your spouse. The state of manners just isn't associated to the state of 1’s funds. There are many impolite individuals up above, as everyone knows.
If something, folding your serviette would counsel that your loved ones used fabric napkins at dinner — not a given for a very long time now. Serviette rings would have been issued, and you'll have been anticipated to put your serviette in yours neatly. Folding the serviette may also point out that your loved ones didn't have a laundress, and so the napkins had been used for a number of meals earlier than washing, however that's hardly what one would name low-class.
Nonetheless, when one is eating out, there isn't any query of the napkins’ being reused. (At the least, there shouldn't be.) That's the reason to not try and make the napkins look as if they're contemporary.
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