DEAR ABBY: A couple of years in the past, my husband, sad in his job, determined he needed to be an actual property agent.
He give up his job to do full-time actual property, and actually struggled. The corporate he joined provided little coaching, and he had no workplace expertise. The dramatic drop in our earnings nearly bankrupted us.
He requested me to additionally get a license to assist (I've an important workplace job). I didn’t wish to at first as a result of I knew I'd find yourself doing nearly all of the work, however I did it anyway.
Shortly after I bought licensed, he was provided a place at his earlier firm. It was a blessing, and he took it.
I stored promoting actual property along with my job and having numerous success. I imagine it’s because of my 20 years of workplace administration expertise and social media expertise. Though I’m an introvert, I’m a tough employee, and my enterprise is rising. Individuals search me out.
Abby, my husband is jealous. Once I promote a house, he pouts, acts depressed or picks arguments. He hates going to enterprise dinners or coaching with our firm, and if I am going with out him, he barely speaks to me the subsequent day.
Generally he will get excited and talks about how he must promote some homes. When he does, I encourage him and discuss how nice he's at working with folks — however finally he does nothing to make it occur.
I actually get pleasure from actual property. I like getting out and displaying homes and networking with different brokers, and the additional earnings has actually helped. I don’t know what to do.
PAYING THE PRICE OF SUCCESS
DEAR PAYING: Your husband could also be jealous as a result of you've outdone him in his (day)dream job. Or, he could also be punishing you out of concern that you're turning into so profitable you may want your independence.
Hold going, and do not enable his conduct to decrease you. None of what you've described is wholesome for the way forward for your marriage.
I’m hoping a licensed marriage and household therapist might be able to make it easier to to navigate by way of this tough patch. Please don’t put it off. With out counseling, the established order isn’t more likely to change.
DEAR ABBY: I've a buddy who doesn’t drive and continuously asks me to take her locations. As a superb buddy, I do it.
Once I take her to an occasion, we agree on a time that we are going to go away, however she invariably stays behind to talk with different folks 30 or 45 minutes previous the time that we agreed on. As well as, she by no means provides something for gas.
I believe she’s thoughtless, and I’m eager about telling her she might want to discover her personal rides. Am I fallacious for this?
OVER IT IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR OVER IT: No, you aren't fallacious, however the subsequent time it occurs, do that: Inform your good buddy you can be leaving the occasion at a particular time and if she needs to stay round and chat, she ought to discover one other journey residence. That method you received’t be inconvenienced.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.