DEAR MISS MANNERS: My son is marrying a stunning girl raised in a special faith from ours. Our household’s faith considers tattoos to be taboo.
How can I gently recommend to my son’s fiancee that she think about a robe the place her massive again tattoo won't be seen? I’m afraid all of the company of our faith will likely be centered on the tattoo and never the bride.
Am I being old school?
My son and his fiancee are of their late 30s, so I’m not sure if it’s acceptable for me to voice my considerations. How ought to I proceed?
GENTLE READER: Are you going to recommend that she avoid summer time outings, too?
As a result of she is more likely to wish to take pleasure in them together with her new household — and that can little question require clothes that doesn't cowl her again.
Miss Manners suggests you keep away from this challenge, as this couple is certainly grown up and might possible deal with the eye. If you need to be useful, maybe you may remind your loved ones that the bride doesn't have the identical tattoo restrictions in her faith.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm not an influencer. I exploit one social media platform to submit about present occasions and humorous experiences, utilizing it as a approach to keep linked with far-flung family and friends.
An acquaintance aspires to be not simply an influencer however a thought chief. Certainly, she employs consultants who help her in her multi-platform methods. I want her nicely, besides when she plagiarizes one thing I’ve written.
She makes minor modifications, however when she makes use of my materials, her posts have a voice distinctly totally different from her normal commentary.
Clearly, many individuals can have the identical concept for a punchline concerning the information of the day, however that is wholesale appropriation.
GENTLE READER: Politely (and privately) name her bluff. “Humorous how we maintain posting the identical joke. Possibly we should always brainstorm and collaborate. What have been you pondering of claiming concerning the newest occasions in Myanmar?”
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've profound listening to loss, the results of a childhood sickness some 50 years in the past. I labored arduous at studying to lip-read and still have had speech remedy, and now most individuals can’t detect a distinction between my speech and that of hearing-able individuals.
As a small enterprise proprietor, I ceaselessly meet new individuals, and I’m upfront concerning the listening to loss — explaining the state of affairs and asking that they take a look at me whereas speaking.
Often, somebody will say, “You don’t sound deaf.” I admit that I discover this impolite, and it makes me really feel defensive. I’d like to say one thing snarky in response, however worry it might replicate poorly on my enterprise. I often reply that I’ve had speech remedy and alter the topic.
Do I proceed to smile and bear it, or are you able to recommend a reply that can allow them to know that the remark is out of line with out being imply?
GENTLE READER: “What? I’m unsure what ‘sounding deaf’ feels like” — adopted by a quizzical look.
Presumably this will likely be sufficient to disgrace these impolite individuals to silence. But when it doesn't, Miss Manners trusts that you'll minimize them off earlier than they try and offensively exhibit.
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