DEAR MISS MANNERS: A good friend of mine is staying with me, and he went residence for Thanksgiving, leaving his cat right here. Effectively, I awakened the primary morning after he left, and the cat is gone.
It is not uncommon for us to go away the doorways open throughout the day, however the cat has by no means run off till now.
So what do I do? Do I name my good friend and inform him over the cellphone? Or do I wait until he will get again, hoping the cat will return within the meantime? But when the cat doesn’t return, will he be harm that I didn’t inform him immediately?
GENTLE READER: Have you ever considered one thing to say when your good friend returns and says, “Thanks for taking good care of Tinkerbell. I wager he’ll be glad to see me. The place is he? Tinkerbell! I’m again! Tinkerbell, the place are you? TINKERBELL!!!”
No?
Then Miss Manners suggests that you just get busy placing up posters across the neighborhood. She gives you a day or two earlier than confessing to your good friend, on the grounds that you just had been searching frantically, however after that it's essential to break the unhappy information.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My spouse and I had been invited for Thanksgiving dinner at a brand new good friend’s residence together with three different couples. We had been requested to carry a dish to cross.
On the finish of a pleasant night, we had been requested to take residence the leftover meals we introduced. We thought that was inappropriate and impolite.
GENTLE READER: Humorous — the complaints that Miss Manners normally will get are from folks whose leftovers had been saved by the hosts. Or snatched by different friends.
For a vacation that's imagined to be related to hospitality and inclusiveness, Thanksgiving apparently evokes loads of unseemly squabbling.
Neither is it consistent with the spirit of the event to imagine that your hosts (who may need had an overstuffed kitchen) had been simply ready till the tip of the pleasant meal for the possibility to insult you.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I had a celebration to have a good time an enormous anniversary. We requested that individuals not carry presents, however somebody gave us a really good bottle of whiskey anyway.
The issue is that we don’t drink, and neither do most of our mates.
As a result of it’s such a pleasant bottle, I hate to see it go to waste. I steered we thank the particular person, clarify the problem, and provides it again so another person would be capable of get pleasure from it.
My husband says that might be impolite, so it’s sitting in a cabinet.
It would most likely by no means be loved until we will discover somebody to regift it to, which can create a bunch of different issues.
GENTLE READER: Returning a gift to the giver is disagreeable, so let’s attempt to discover it a house.
In case you don’t have mates who drink, how a few favourite restaurant? (Miss Manners is assuming that you're unlikely to have a favourite bar.)
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