DEAR ABBY: Our 10-year-old granddaughter has a speech obstacle, which is turning into increasingly more vital. It's clear this isn't one thing she’s going to outgrow.
She is homeschooled and doesn’t attend any type of speech remedy. Her mother is aware of it exists and has talked about the speech concern in passing.
I don’t wish to offend our daughter, however I additionally don’t wish to see this candy little lady have an issue that's going to be harder to repair as she will get older.
Is there a diplomatic approach to deal with this? The very last thing I wish to do is upset our daughter, however I’m actually apprehensive about our granddaughter. Your ideas?
— PLAINLY SPOKEN IN OREGON
DEAR PLAINLY SPOKEN: Getting your granddaughter the assistance she wants to beat her speech obstacle is extra necessary than worrying about upsetting your daughter by stating the apparent. By all means, communicate up.
DEAR ABBY: A decade in the past, earlier than my spouse and I had kids, we had been deeply in love with one another. The whole lot was nice within the bed room and outdoors.
After we had kids, my spouse did a 180. She’s now not affectionate with me in any respect.
We barely maintain arms, we by no means hug, and kissing is prohibited besides perhaps a kiss earlier than mattress. We kiss prefer it’s an obligation. There’s no touching in our relationship.
Within the bed room we was extra bodily and fewer restrained. I needed her to be happy, with out getting extra particular. Now, if we're intimate, it’s as soon as a month throughout the summer season and perhaps twice a month in any other case. She received’t permit me to the touch
some elements of her physique, and she or he’s bodily and emotionally distant.
After I addressed this along with her, she knowledgeable me that different couples are intimate much less ceaselessly than we're.
She has let her physique go, and doesn’t weight-reduction plan and even attempt to watch her weight, and I’m involved for her well being as a result of she has grow to be overweight. If I attempt to deliver these issues up, she flies right into a rage.
Abby, am I being egocentric?
— MISSING THE CLOSENESS
DEAR MISSING: The reply to that query is not any. One thing has gone radically unsuitable together with your marriage and you've got been iced out.
Generally when kids come into the image, couples “neglect” find out how to be associates and lovers as a result of they're so distracted, drained, and so on.
You and your spouse want to debate this within the workplace of a licensed therapist. If she’s unwilling to do this, have some classes alone so you could find a approach to get by way of to her or work out whether or not you wish to proceed dwelling in “Siberia” till your kids grow to be adults.
DEAR ABBY: Please settle a yearly disagreement. If I supply to take the birthday lady out for lunch, I shall be paying the invoice. So which of us chooses the restaurant?
I say I ought to get to decide on the place to host the celebration for which I’m paying. Birthday lady insists she will get to decide on the place I’m going to take her, because it’s her birthday.
— UNSURE IN FLORIDA
DEAR UNSURE: The selection of the place to take your visitor ought to be yours, not hers. Between you and me, I feel she is nervy to recommend in any other case.
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