DEAR ABBY: My crush is in love with this woman. I like him, and this woman isn’t proper for him.
I imply, she’s the jealous sort and completely possessive. She’s telling me she’s his “proprietor,” and that after they get married, his physique and all the things about him is hers.
I’m saying it doesn't matter what she says, he won't ever be hers.
You'll be able to’t personal an individual, and you actually shouldn’t be with somebody who’s possessive as a result of it means they’re insecure, and it’s not wholesome for a relationship.
She mainly tried to make me jealous. I like him a lot. I would like him to be blissful, however I don’t assume it must be along with her.
I would like some recommendation.
— CRUSHING IN GEORGIA
DEAR CRUSHING: You might be entitled to your opinion, however as you said, this man is in love along with her, not you.
She could act possessive as a result of she is aware of you need him, so she’s attempting to ascertain boundaries.
If she is admittedly as insecure as you assume, there'll come some extent after which he could start to really feel smothered. That could be once you’ll lastly get your probability.
For now, again off and sweeten up.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be married for greater than 40 years. My ex continuously badmouths me to everybody. He obtained to our grown daughter early throughout our separation, and it’s clear to me she has sided with him.
He’s a really clever narcissist who manipulates individuals they usually’re not even conscious of it.
Our divorce took three completely different attorneys and value me 1000's, which was his intention.
Ought to I speak in confidence to my daughter and attempt to get her to grasp why I can’t be round him? I don’t need to alienate my solely youngster.
— FREE BUT NOT TOTALLY HAPPY
DEAR FREE: If you happen to have been married to your husband for 40 years, your daughter is not a baby. Don't try to diminish her opinion of her father — merely clarify why you possibly can not keep married to him.
If you happen to can talk about your divorce along with her and level out particular examples she could have observed in her youth that led to your divorce, I see no purpose why you shouldn’t.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter and I are each immunocompromised. I've most cancers; she has bronchial asthma and rheumatoid arthritis. Our medical doctors have suggested us to not collect with crowds.
We didn’t attend my niece’s wedding ceremony or her child bathe as a result of no person was masked and everybody was collectively.
Now it looks like now we have been forgotten. We weren't invited to latest vacation celebrations. My sister-in-law at all times despatched group invitations to those occasions, however we haven’t acquired any. They haven’t even requested us how we're.
We're nonetheless not capable of attend, however we wish to assume we're nonetheless welcome. Am I justified in feeling this fashion?
— EXCLUDED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR EXCLUDED: In the intervening time, it's essential to settle for that you simply gained’t be capable of mingle with giant teams. Nonetheless, that doesn’t imply you possibly can’t meet with small teams.
To be much less in danger, think about internet hosting some small get-togethers with vaccinated pals and kin, and you could not really feel so remoted.
However please don't blame people who know your circumstances, and whose invites you've refused, for eradicating you from their visitor lists for now.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.