DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago returned from an annual ladies journey with my retired academics group. All of us get alongside effectively and revel in one another’s firm aside from one “fly within the ointment” who refuses to depart first rate ideas for excellent restaurant service.
I’m speaking about $2 on a $20 tab. All of us pay our personal payments and the remainder of us tip 25% or extra each time.
Now we have talked about the topic of tipping to her earlier than. She says she thinks it’s a “racket.” Is there something we will do?
CHEAPSKATE’S FRIEND
DEAR FRIEND: The annual ladies journey could also be this lady’s solely splurge for the 12 months, which can be why she’s conservative in terms of tipping.
I'll assume that you just and the others have spoken to her in regards to the wage scale for restaurant servers, and the truth that a lot of them should share their ideas with different workers.
As a result of there’s nothing you are able to do to vary the habits of one other grownup, both take into account your individual beneficiant ideas as balancing out her stingy ones or cease together with her as a result of she’s a humiliation.
DEAR ABBY: I've an excellent, if not terribly shut, relationship with my grownup son and daughter. We converse each few weeks. They dwell a long way away. There’s no drama, no damaging angst between us.
My husband and I'll quickly be celebrating our sixtieth marriage ceremony anniversary. Neither our son nor our daughter has acknowledged the event nor requested if we want to have a good time it. I assume they're one way or the other unaware of this milestone.
Ought to I contact them about it? It’s not like we’re incommunicado or estranged, as a result of we’re not.
This anniversary is an enormous deal to us, but they appear unaware.
I’m blaming myself one way or the other. Their father has been handled for most cancers and is, happily, deemed cancer-free now. What's your recommendation?
READY TO CELEBRATE IN FLORIDA
DEAR READY: Your son and daughter could also be so wrapped up in themselves and their very own lives that it hasn’t occurred to them to volunteer to host one thing or ask what you and their father would love. Name them and lift the topic.
They could be ready to be advised what, if something, you could have deliberate for the event.
If they aren't accessible, don't let that cease you from having the celebration the event deserves.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend broke up with me. After just a few weeks, I used to be OK with it.
Then he needed to go to me, however I used to be busy that day and, reality be advised, I didn’t need to see him. I used to be going to hang around with a man buddy when my ex confirmed up though I had advised him to not. After I went out with my buddy, my ex couldn’t go in my home as a result of I didn’t need him there if I wasn’t there.
After I returned dwelling, my ex was mad that we went out to eat and didn’t get him something.
Was I supposed to purchase him meals if I didn’t even need him there to start with? This occurred months in the past and I’m nonetheless livid.
DEE IN NEW YORK
DEAR DEE: Being livid is a waste of your time and vitality. That your former boyfriend would drive himself on you regardless of having been advised he was unwelcome was impolite and boorish. You probably did precisely the correct factor by not permitting him to insert himself into your plans.
I hope you are actually rid of him. If he retains it up, it may very well be thought-about borderline stalking.
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