DEAR ABBY: I've a detailed pal whom I’ve recognized for a number of years. She typically involves my residence within the evenings for an hour or so to get away from her home. She’s a single guardian who lives at residence along with her mother and two youngsters, so she considers it an escape.
Whereas I don’t thoughts her coming over most days, a considerably delicate challenge has come up.
She typically wears tennis footwear with out socks, or footwear which have gone a really very long time with out being washed. When she takes them off, they stink. She then tries to cover her smelly ft beneath the blankets I carry on my sofa.
It doesn’t assist. I can nonetheless odor them, and my blankets stink when she leaves.
This challenge is embarrassing, and I don’t need to harm her emotions however, truthfully, I’m sick of getting to clean my blankets each time she comes over. Any options on how I ought to deal with this?
SUFFERING IN SILENCE
DEAR SUFFERING: Deal with this by asking your pal to please maintain her footwear on and her ft on the ground when she’s at your home. If she asks why, inform her the reality and recommend she begin washing her footwear — and her ft — frequently.
DEAR ABBY: For 15 years I’ve maintained a detailed friendship with a rich older man who has turn into a type of mentor. He’s 90 years previous now and in failing well being.
He advised me on a number of events that I used to be named in his will, however once we met for lunch the opposite day, he knowledgeable me his complete property will go to his live-in caregivers.
I used to be by no means on this friendship for the cash (he solely lately turned rich after inheriting his late sister’s property), however it hurts understanding I’ve been eradicated from his will with no clarification. I earn a six-figure earnings and don’t want his cash, however it bothers me.
If I ask about it, I'll seem greedy. If I say nothing, it's going to gnaw away at me. What do I do?
PROMISE WITHDRAWN IN TEXAS
DEAR PROMISE: Give up worrying about appearances and ask him the query you need to have requested when he advised you he had modified his will and eradicated you.
Do it now. He’s 90 and in failing well being, and chances are you'll not have lengthy to get the reply to the query.
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 9-year-old woman. Proper now I don’t do chores or get an allowance, however I need to. How ought to I ask my mother and father? And the way a lot cash ought to I ask for?
KID WHO NEEDS CASH
DEAR KID: Inform your mother and father you need to discuss to them about an allowance. Ask what issues you may do to assist round the home so as to earn one and the way a lot they're keen to pay you for doing them.
As to how a lot to anticipate, it will depend upon what your mother and father could possibly afford. Ask them if you happen to can negotiate to seek out an quantity you all agree upon. And if you happen to want extra money, doing comparable chores for a relative or neighbor may be a very good place to begin.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.