DEAR ABBY: I’m a university scholar who broke up with my long-term highschool boyfriend a number of months in the past. He was a dishonest dirtbag, so I moved on shortly.
I've been having fun with the one life, however now discover myself in a little bit of a love triangle.
“Derek” is blond and quick, and likes to go to the fitness center. He’s sort and attentive, and he appears to care very a lot for me.
He invited me to his formal dance, however I turned him down as a result of I didn’t know him very properly. He didn’t take anybody else despite the fact that he had loads of time to discover a date. My buddy on the dance stated he didn’t even discuss to a different woman, so I do know he’s very loyal already.
The opposite contender, “Shay,” is taller and has darkish hair. He has sort, blue eyes and a shy persona, though with me he actually opens up and talks. He at all times checks in to see how I’m doing once I’ve had a tough day. Within the easiest phrases, he places up with my nonsense. He has seen me at a few of my worst moments and nonetheless confirmed compassion.
I’m genuinely torn between these two and don’t know the way to decide on as a result of I don’t wish to lose both of them. What do I do?
BOY CRAZY IN IOWA
DEAR BOY CRAZY: I've excellent news. As a result of nowhere in your letter did you point out that both of those younger males have requested you for an unique relationship, you shouldn't have to make a tough selection. Some folks like each chocolate and vanilla ice cream.
I counsel you be sincere with them and revel in seeing them each till the reply to your query turns into apparent. (Be happy to write down me once more should you meet a good-looking redhead.)
DEAR ABBY: My dad, who's nearing 80, has been married to my stepmom, “Ruth,” for practically 35 years. She has at all times been temperamental and controlling to a level, however throughout the previous few years it has turn out to be abundantly clear that she’s emotionally abusive to my dad.
Twenty years in the past, I moved to a different coast, and though Dad needed to go to, the choice was at all times as much as Ruth, so that they by no means did. Nevertheless, on the subject of her speedy household, Dad is required to attend each occasion.
Throughout COVID I moved just some states away, and that’s once I obtained the complete image. Ruth took away Dad’s cellphone and bought his automotive, so he's just about caught. She is not going to even let him point out buying a automobile. He’s an artist, and he or she by no means “allowed” him to get a studio.
The checklist is lengthy, unhappy and irritating. He forbids me to confront her, however it's giving me every day stress as a result of I really like my dad and I worry her management is one thing he has grown accustomed to. Any recommendation?
DISTRESSED DAUGHTER IN THE SOUTH
DEAR DAUGHTER: As repugnant because the scenario could also be to you, I don't assume you need to attempt to cut back your stress by creating extra in your father.
He has forbidden you from confronting his spouse about her hypercontrolling conduct, and you need to respect his needs. I don’t have to love it; you don’t have to love it. However that is what your father has been keen to just accept for the final 35 years.
He and solely he may have put a cease to it or left her if he had actually needed to.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.