DEAR ABBY: I’m in a seven-year relationship with a fantastic lady I really like and would do something on the earth for. I really feel she would do the identical for me.
She has a canine, “Preston,” whom she loves and who has been together with her since puppyhood. At 16, Preston is failing badly and is on his final legs. There isn't any doubt his time is coming.
We had deliberate on assembly my son and grandchildren for a household celebration after a seven-hour drive. Her plan was to accompany me, however now, due to Preston’s situation, she has modified her thoughts.
I perceive that. Nonetheless, she’s now indignant that I'm going alone.
I spend every single day together with her and exit of my means at all times to assist her. She has no grandchildren, having misplaced her solely daughter 20 years in the past. I can be gone for under a weekend and return in loads of time to be together with her afterward.
I haven’t seen my three granddaughters in a yr, and who is aware of when I'll once more. Ought to I really feel responsible about leaving her and the canine? I'm caught within the center right here and am going to upset her or my son’s household it doesn't matter what I do.
MAN IN THE MIDDLE
DEAR MAN: You said that your vital different’s solely little one died 20 years in the past. It's potential that pet Preston turned like a baby to her, and shedding him is inflicting her to revisit the lack of her daughter.
If there may be any strategy to handle it, postpone the go to together with your son and his household till later within the yr, after Preston’s passing, or have them come to you. If that’s not potential, as a result of it’s solely a weekend, go see your son and your grandkids however stay involved together with her from afar through the go to.
DEAR ABBY: My first husband was abusive, and I divorced him after lower than 4 years of marriage. We had two daughters.
In 2016, I remarried, this time to a loving, caring man. My oldest daughter was my maid of honor.
A yr after our wedding ceremony, she married her soulmate. Her father and I, together with our present spouses, paid for his or her reception.
Since 2017, this daughter has frequently requested us for monetary help. At first we helped, however after a horrible argument, we drew the road, and he or she determined to sever our relationship fully. She sees us often throughout holidays and is cordial, however she doesn’t name or textual content for my birthday or Mom’s Day, which could be very hurtful.
I don’t know the place to show, besides to hope. I don’t wish to be estranged anymore. I miss her terribly, however don't wish to be financially taken benefit of any longer. Any recommendation would assist.
HEARTBROKEN IN DELAWARE
DEAR HEARTBROKEN: Would you actually wish to obtain birthday and Mom’s Day greetings figuring out they didn’t come from the center and that you just had been paying for them? That is what your daughter’s actions have revealed. You haven't triggered this estrangement; she has, since you turned off the spigot.
I’m certain you're hurting, as a result of that's what your daughter intends. Since prayer hasn’t helped you deal with this, seek the advice of a licensed psychological well being skilled, and I believe you'll have higher outcomes. You have got my sympathy.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.