DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I've been courting for a 12 months. We at the moment are making preparations to maneuver in collectively.
I think about myself fortunate as a result of each day my accomplice tells me I’m stunning, that I'm type and plenty of great issues. I do know he adores me.
Nevertheless, he has not instructed me he loves me. Nor have I stated it to him.
Am I old school in assuming my male accomplice ought to inform me he loves me first? I’m getting impatient.
GREAT GIRLFRIEND IN IDAHO
DEAR GIRLFRIEND: I've a suggestion. Earlier than you progress in with this man, why don’t you merely ask him why he hasn’t stated the phrases you lengthy to listen to?
From what you could have written, he demonstrates it usually. His reply could also be enlightening and will have an effect on whether or not you proceed along with your plans.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I divorced when our solely son was 3. We had joint custody. Our marriage ended due to my husband’s binge consuming, secrecy, verbal abuse and one incident of home violence.
At 14, my son selected to reside along with his father. Now he’s 30, and his dad and stepmother have alienated him from me. After I see him, there may be all the time underlying hostility.
He has had issues abusing alcohol and marijuana. I like and concern for him, as any mom would.
I attend Al-Anon conferences and have made myself geographically out there to him during the last eight years. He visits briefly, a couple of times each six months. I've provided to go to counseling with him. He has a counselor however by no means invitations me to return. I might pay for one, however my son says he’s too busy to do extra.
Ought to I simply hand over? I’m afraid of letting go however emotionally drained from the wrestle.
MOM WITH A BREAKING HEART
DEAR MOM: You've gotten carried out every little thing you'll be able to to restore the tie that was damaged so way back. You may’t repair what’s mistaken along with your son. No matter issues there have been previously, you could have tried to cope with them the most effective you would.
There's a saying in AA, “Let go and let God.” For the sake of your individual emotional well-being, it's time to do this.
DEAR ABBY: We reside subsequent door to a pleasant Jewish household, with three valuable children who appear to actually like us previous retirees. I had deliberate to make a Passover cake for them and had enter on put together kosher. Nevertheless, I'm having second ideas.
Ought to I ship a card telling them I’d like to arrange one thing? Or ought to I'm going forward and put together it anyway? Or ought to I simply ship a Passover greeting as an alternative?
WONDERING IN TEXAS
DEAR WONDERING: A card is likely to be the wiser solution to go. Earlier than you go to the expense of shopping for the substances, discuss with the spouse. Inform her what you might be planning and learn the way “strictly kosher” the household is. Whereas some households would welcome your generosity, others may want to not eat one thing that wasn’t ready from kosher merchandise and ready in a kosher kitchen.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.