DEAR ABBY: I'm a divorced single mom who has lastly met somebody. His title is “Greg,” and we’ve been courting for 2 months.
Greg can be divorced and financially secure. The one factor I actually like is that he will get alongside effectively with my teenage son.
The issue is, each two or three weeks, Greg falls right into a deep sleep that lasts three days. He’ll stand up for a glass of water or to run to the shop, however goes proper again to sleep. It causes him to overlook work, and oftentimes he turns into verbally abusive throughout these episodes.
Over Christmas, I noticed him coherent for under 10 minutes your entire weekend. When he wasn’t half-asleep, he was calling me names, belittling my self-worth and telling me no person however he would ever love me so I had “higher keep.” On Christmas Eve, I used to be left alone and crying in a darkish lounge.
When these episodes aren’t occurring, he’s attentive and charming. His daughter instructed me he’s been like this for years.
I really feel resentful about all the pieces he’s put me by means of in such a brief period of time, however I’m afraid I'll by no means discover another person after being single and lonely for therefore lengthy. Can I get your recommendation on tips on how to view his scenario?
INCREDULOUS IN OKLAHOMA
DEAR INCREDULOUS: Greg’s conduct isn't regular.
Speak to him when he’s acutely aware. Ask if he remembers what occurs to his character throughout these prolonged intervals when he’s “asleep.” Inform him his rants are hurtful and verbally abusive. Ask what he thinks causes these episodes. May he be having an adversarial response to a medicine or another substance he’s taking, as a result of the particular person you’re encountering isn’t the Greg you like.
Greg could have to be examined bodily and neurologically to make sure he doesn’t have a medical concern. Nonetheless, if he refuses, draw the road now and finish the connection, as a result of it gained’t enhance with out intervention.
As lonely as you could be, please think about how lonely your future will likely be in case you stick with him, and the way damaging it is going to be to your impressionable son.
DEAR ABBY: How do I take care of a troublesome co-worker? I’m variety, well mannered and courteous to this particular person, and they're quick, impolite and condescending in response.
They're the kind of one who wouldn’t care if I approached them and instructed them my emotions are harm, and possibly would make enjoyable of me behind my again.
How do I take care of this particular person? It makes me need to go away my job.
PEEVED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR PEEVED: Does this co-worker deal with everybody the way in which they deal with you? If the reply is sure, then as a gaggle doc these incidents and inform your supervisor or employer the particular person is making a hostile work setting.
In case you are the one worker getting the brunt of your co-worker’s hostility, you'll have to communicate to your employer your self. And if nothing may be executed to treatment the scenario, you might have to hunt employment elsewhere.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.