DEAR ABBY: A pal lately moved again to his dwelling state. As a result of he was anxious about leaving, I instructed him he might stick with me anytime he was again on the town.
I used to be making an attempt to be good and calm his nerves, however he has taken me actually and thinks he can come keep at any time when he likes.
When he visits, we not often spend time collectively exterior of my home. He’s off with different mates for eating, boating, and many others. (By the best way, I do know these individuals however I’m by no means invited, which is OK I suppose, however shouldn’t I be?)
As well as, he leaves piles of garments mendacity round in my dwelling space, together with used tissues and face masks, which appears disrespectful.
Am I flawed to be aggravated? Different mates assume I’m being taken benefit of. I'd admire your ideas.
TOO NICE A GUY IN GEORGIA
DEAR TOO NICE: Don't blame your pal for profiting from the beneficiant give you made earlier than he moved. And no rule of etiquette dictates that try to be included on his outings with others if he’s an invited visitor. (It will have been considerate had he instructed it, nonetheless.)
I do assume you might be overdue in having a chat with him in regards to the garments, used face masks and tissues “mendacity round.”
The underside line is, do you really feel you might be being taken benefit of? If the reply is sure, communicate up and specific that whilst you don’t thoughts him staying with you sometimes, he shouldn't assume your own home is his pad on the town.
DEAR ABBY: I've a beautiful 31-year-old son who's in a relationship with a beautiful younger girl. It’s possible they’ll be married in a 12 months or two.
They work exhausting of their careers and luxuriate in good meals and wine, and I’m glad for them each.
I’ve seen, nonetheless, that over the past 12 months my son has steadily placed on weight and is having some bother together with his complexion. I’m involved that he has acquired the behavior of overindulging himself and that, over time, he'll proceed gaining weight and consuming an excessive amount of. His girlfriend seems to be nice — she manages her weight very properly.
I do know my observations might be unwelcome, so I don’t share them with him. I feel it’s the fitting selection, however it’s actually exhausting to carry again.
We do talk about well being typically, because it’s a mutual curiosity, however that’s so far as it goes.
His father handed away just a few years in the past, so, sadly, he’s not round to share my considerations with. What ought to I do?
TREADING LIGHTLY IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
DEAR TREADING LIGHTLY: You're a caring guardian. However your son is properly into maturity, and I don’t assume involving your self in his weight downside could be properly obtained.
Many individuals (of each sexes) have placed on weight over the past two years because of the pandemic. Due to that, you might encourage him to get a bodily. For those who do, his physician would possibly discuss to him about his weight achieve.
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