DEAR HARRIETTE: I don’t need to help my good friend’s YouTube channel publicly as a result of I don’t like their content material.
I've a variety of followers, and I solely co-sign issues that I completely love.
Ought to I be fully trustworthy with them about this? I don’t need to damage my good friend’s emotions, however I believe their emotions are already damage by my lack of public help for his or her channel anyway.
Unhealthy Content material
DEAR BAD CONTENT: It is a nice query and very difficult. On one hand, you may “play dumb” and say nothing, however as you level out, that doesn’t imply your good friend will cease questioning why the dis.
You might be trustworthy as nicely. The query is, how a lot honesty is true for the second? Whenever you take a look at your good friend’s channel, what bothers you about it? Is the standard of the content material poor? Is it in poor style? Is it amateurish? Is it salacious? What in regards to the content material bothers you — particularly?
If you find yourself crystal clear about what bothers you, you may resolve what info is value sharing together with your good friend. In case your emotions are purely subjective, you may say as a lot: The content material doesn’t enchantment to you personally; due to this fact, you don't really feel snug aligning with it.
In case your analysis is that the content material is by some means destructive, be ready to say what precisely falls into the destructive realm.
Select a time to speak to your good friend that's personal and secure. Inform them that you already know that you haven't publicly supported their YouTube channel, and out of respect for them, you needed to say why. Apologize in case your ideas make them uncomfortable, then share highlights.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Is it unusual to start out touring on my own? I’m single, I don’t have any kids and I don’t plan on having kids any time quickly.
My New 12 months’s decision was to see the world this 12 months, however I don’t have pals who're available to journey with me. I need to do it on their lonesome. I’m self-employed, so I don’t really want to remain in a single place. Is that this a good suggestion?
Lone Traveler
DEAR LONE TRAVELER: Good for you that you're not ready on anybody to pursue your desires. When one is enthusiastic about one thing, getting buy-in from others isn't at all times essential. I’m a giant believer in touring. It helps to open your eyes and take into account different folks’s methods of being. I totally help your thought.
I additionally need to level out that touring within the age of COVID-19 isn't any simple endeavor. You have to do your analysis with much more vigilance and be ready to pivot when wanted. Simply prior to now few weeks, I've witnessed a number of pals need to shift their journey plans due to closed borders or canceled flights.
Past that, I'll advocate what I realized from a solo traveler good friend from my youth. This man at all times shared his journey itinerary with a few key pals. It included his flights, inns, and so on., simply in order that another person knew his anticipated journey plans. This was earlier than cellphones, however even in immediately’s occasions, I strongly counsel that not less than one different particular person know the place you might be headed, and that you simply verify in with them once in a while, so that somebody is looking out in case of emergency. Bon voyage!
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founding father of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to assist folks entry and activate their desires. You may ship inquiries to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.